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What are some REAL child abuse organizations i can donate to?
I’m not old enough to yet, but when i’m older i want to donate to organizations stopping child abuse (physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, etc), not cons or hoaxes, can you give me some names and websites i can start saving up for?
how about the SPCA?
October 29th, 2009
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where can I find stories about child abuse?
I’m looking for testimonies from adult survivors or children of incestuous sexual and emotional abuse. overall, but I’d like to also find specifically girls and women who were victimised by their fathers over a long period of time. also, it would be nice to find those who were not consciously aware the whole time and where the abuse took place primarily at night.
or stepfather.
don’t worry, I’m not a creep, I’m just one of those girls and want to read about others like myself.
abuse carried on through teenhood and probably included being drugged at night.
I notice you leave out sexual abuse by mothers and woman. An Iowa woman, posing as a teenage boy, had sex with 15 girls. She got five years and no registry as a sex offender.
A Missouri woman had sex with five 14 year old boys while being HIV positive. She was convicted as a pedophile, and got 5 years, but it was overturned because woman can’t be considered pedophiles. Her record was expunged. Two of the boys, now men, are HIV positive.
A 25 year old Michigan woman sexually abuses an 11 year old boy. She gets pregnant, but figures it is her husbands, as 11 year old boys can’t get grown women pregnant.
When her child is 15, her husband files for divorce and custody. She tells him he may not be the father. A DNA test proves this out, blocking him from getting custody,but now she can’t collect child support.
Her option now is to file against the bio dad. She does, winning 15 years retroactive child support based on his current income. The order is upheld on appeal. This despite that the husband supported the child for all those years. The young man cannot file charges as the statute of limitations has run out. He cannot sue her as she has no income and the child support is not considered income and is not taxable.
So, he is punished for allowing himself to be sexually abused as a child.
Now, how many girls has had this happen to them?
October 29th, 2009
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What are some of the signs that a woman was sexually abused as a child?
I am dating a woman at the moment and I someone hinted to me that she was sexually abused as a child. What are some of the typical signs / behaviours of a woman who has had this experience. I really like her and would love to help her with this awful experience.
Some people you really cannot tell, and a lot of women may just become very insecure (often becoming very promiscious) which lets face it is something a lot of women suffer from or very closed-off to you emotionally until you can really gain trust.
I was abused as a child which I do not remember, and by my first boyfriend in my teens in quite a nasty way. You cannot really tell, everyone deals with it slightly differently, I’m told I deal with it very well and no one knows until I tell them, which tends to freak out boyfriends.
I have a habit of getting too involved sexually with people I don’t really want to get involved with, example of what I mean by insecure. I’m very flirty in talking to people and sometimes I find myself slipping into something physical with people I don’t want to get physical with without being able to stop it – not being able to say no could be an issue to watch out for.
The biggest tell-tale with me is occasionally if a partner is a little too forceful or pushy for me to do something or if I feel I’m not performing well I will just curl up, go quiet unable to move or talk. I had this with an ex boyfriend of mine who was raped twice, you wouldn’t know, but every now and then he’d go into almost a trance, it’s like post traumatic stress.
Some people are very nasty about this – to me this is the most important thing for a partner to be able to deal with.
It will perhaps just show as something little, maybe she will be a little insecure, maybe one day she’ll just get upset for seemingly no reason leaving you pretty damn confused – be paitent if this does happen, don’t get moody back or leave her, give her some space but don’t give up on making sure she is okay.
Really unless she tells you outright you will not know for sure, it’s not best to guess but make note of what can happen so you can make sure you don’t just assume she’s being a nut-job. It’s also best of course that you don’t ask, people have a way of telling you when they are ready. It’s good that you care, but don’t treat her any different to a normal woman, act normal and if she is upset be there for her.
October 29th, 2009
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What is your definition of verbal abuse in a relationship?
How do you define the boundaries of verbal abuse? When would you say it isn’t verbal abuse?
Boundaries—when they’re hurting you with words. Attacking your character, using things such as horrid memories. Breaking you down mentally, until you lost site of who you are as a beautiful individual!!!
October 29th, 2009
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How can I help prevent child abuse?
I don’t have much money to give, I’m fourteen and jobless. But I want to help! I feel that abuse is one of our nation’s greatest problems, even if statistics don’t show the same. I’ve wanted to help since I was about twelve…how do I? I know I can’t stop every child from being abused, but if I could just help one…that would just be miraculous in my book.
By the way, I didn’t know what section to ask this in, so if this seems irrelevant I apologize.
You can volunteer to respond to peer calls on your local children’s help phone.
I did that when I was your age. The organization will give you training and a list of contact numbers so that you can help the kids who call.
October 29th, 2009
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What are long term affects of physical abuse?
I don’t think there are any…. honestly.. I was pysically abused abused up age 8 and i know many many people who have also and turned out okay.
um…. what?…. SERIOUSLY?
you could be a perfectly normal person… sure… but I’m not sure you know enough about this to assume that there aren’t any affects.
October 29th, 2009
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Is there anything that I can do about emotional abuse towards an animal?
Seriously. I am sick of my neighbors getting a dog only to pin it up in the backyard. When anyone from one of these two separate residences walks outside the dogs go crazy for some attention. They’ll stand on hind legs and walk as far as their chains will allow, they bark and whine, and I’ve witnessed both neighbors yell at the dogs to SHUT UP! Is this something that animal control can assist in or am I doomed to witness this neglect until I move?
Neglect is a reportable offense. Call the APSCA and file a complaint.
October 29th, 2009
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What are some creative ideas on presenting on the topic of child abuse?
I’m doing a senior project on child abuse and i would like to know what i could use to keep my audience’s attention throughout my presentation like what could i use material wise? anything i would like to get a good grade so please help needed!
Pics of abused children will help keep everyones attention.
October 29th, 2009
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Are there not laws prohibiting physical abuse of children?
There is no law made by man that forces you to do circumcision.
Why should parents and doctors be able to make a choice as to whether to cut someones skin off?
I agree it should be banned in any country wishing to call itself civilised. However they are mindful of infringing on people who do it for religious reasons. Here is some info on why it is better to leave him intact:
A video called "The circumcision decision" which is very helpful and informative:
http://video.google.co.uk/videoplay?docid=-5395565256830319025&ei=si6cSZCZMYnojgKZmcCUDg&q=nocirc&hl=en
History: Non-religious circumcision only started in English-speaking countries in the late 1800’s. The main reason was to prevent masturbation. If you want to learn more then look at this site:
http://www.historyofcircumcision.net/
Rates of circumcision:
Circumcision rates have dropped in the USA to 60%.
http://www.circumstitions.com/USA.html
In Canada and Australia the rate has dropped to less than 10%. In Britain the rate is less than 1%. Only 20-25% of the world are circumcised, 2/3 of these are Muslim.
Foreskin function:
The foreskin is a vital part of the penis. Those that are circumcised do not know what they are missing.
The foreskin contains many specialized nerves on it’s underside. When the foreskin is moved up and down it is very pleasurable. Circumcised men have lost this ability to masturbate easily as there is no gliding effect. Circumcised men often have to resort to artificial lubrication in masturbation and sex. See here for the function of the foreskin:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/naturalresources
Without the foreskin protecting the glans, circumcised men lose further sensitivity. The glans (head of the penis) dries out. It also brushes on underwear causing the skin to toughen. See here for the full damage done:
http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm
There are good reasons to believe that sex is better for the woman as well, if the man has his foreskin intact:
http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/10F/doctor_northrup.html
Circumcision carries a lot of risks:
http://www.catholicsagainstcircumcision.org/cac_complications.htm
There is also evidence that the pain and discomfort of circumcision disrupts the mother-son bond and also breast feeding. Some evidence suggests the trauma of circumcision has long-term psychological effects.
http://www.cirp.org/library/psych/goldman1/
In terms of care – intact is also a lot easier.
The foreskin is attached to the glans at birth (they have to break this seal to perform the circumcision – this is excruciatingly painful – not that the pain is the worst part of circumcision )
You should never pull back the foreskin or try to clean under it. It requires no care.
The foreskin should be left to become retractable on it’s own , it should not be forced. The foreskin becomes retractable by itself. this occurs any time up until the end of puberty, though the average age is 5-10 years. Until then, nothing to do. A lot of doctors/nurses are not familiar with this – don’t let them retract it.
Once it becomes retractable, there is little care – just wash it like any other body part. It is not dirty – if it was then women would be a lot dirtier. Most men worldwide (75-80%) are intact and have no problems.
http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/care/
As for health benefits they are minimal to non-existent – and certainly don’t outweigh the downsides. Men in Britain, France Germany and Italy for instance don’t get circumcised and they all do fine. See here for info about health:
http://www.circinfo.org/parents.html
October 27th, 2009
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Emotional abuse–mother to child?
I’ve looked online to find information on emotional abuse, but can only really find things regarding husband to wife or visa-versa. I was wondering–what are the symptoms of this kind of abuse on a child (and not necessarily just a young child) from their mother? What kind of problems can this cause later in life?
Emotional abuse from mother to child might cause a number of problems. There seems to be a connection between mood disorders (especially depression) and parental abuse. Also, almost all the people with borderline personality disorder have been abused in some way by their parent(s). Of course, many abuse victims never seem to be overly affected by it.
Probably one of the biggest problems that can happen, and in fact is likely to happen, is that the abused child becomes the abuser parent. No matter how much we hate what our parents did, for some reason most of us will repeat those same behaviors as we become adults.
October 25th, 2009
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