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Moving out with boyfriend? Help telling abusive parents…?

So after dating for a while, my BF and I decided to move in together. I’m trying to figure out the best way to tell my uber religious Catholic parents this without causing harm to me or my boyfriend. They have a history of physical abuse towards me (which included being thrown into walls etc) as well as current emotional abuse. My 11 year old sister is also in the equation, and I’m worried on doing this in a way that will still keep her safe…my BF and I were originally thinking a letter, but I kind of feel like that is chickening out…but he is genuinely afraid they will lash out physically on me…

and if they don’t, what if they take it out on my sister? I can personally handle getting the crap beaten out of me, but I don’t want her to get hurt….

To clarify, I am 21 years old, and do not expect them to help me financially in any way shape or form. Please respect our decision and don’t throw statistics or the bible at us, we’ve been thinking about this for a long time and decided this is what’s best for us.

Hehe not all of us here at Yahoo Answers are religious or Christian. You might enjoy advice from me, an absolute atheist! You’re old enough to make your own decisions (and have the law behind you), so if you want to move out with your boyfriend, do it! And congratulations, it’s a big step but it must be very exciting!

You should handle this situation in the safest way possible. If your parents are as violent as you say, it is not "chickening out" to just write them a letter. Let them know that you have moved out (and moved on with your life). If you feel they will hurt your sister if they find out then you’ll need to look for alternatives.

Over the next few months occasionally send a letter letting out your anger and frustration, one issue at a time. Tell them that their physically abusive behavior is intolerable and unacceptable. Tell them they were sh***y parents. If you’re financially stable and you’re willing to make the sacrifice then you might go to court to fight for custody of your sister. Calling child protective services may be an option only if it will protect your sister. Some parents get angrier that their dominance is being threatened and take it out on the child. However, she only has 7 years to go before 18 when she will be legally emancipated.

I wish you good luck and hope you can mend your relationship with your parents one day. As we all get older we start to realize the preciousness of two things (1) the time we have left on this earth and (2) the importance of the people we love. I hope your parents will discover these things soon.

February 3rd, 2010

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What do you think about juvenile crime in South Korea?

From koreantimes

Juvenile Crime Increasing

Juvenile crimes have been on the rise over the last few years while the average age of teenage criminals has been decreasing.

Crimes committed by minors from 12- to 19-years-old jumped from 25,946 in 2006 to 41,754 last year, according to Rep. Joo Kwang-deok of the governing Grand National Party.

According to research, the main reason crimes were committed was to make money to spend on entertainment. Crimes committed by accident and out of curiosity followed.

By charges, larceny was the highest with 10,920 cases while violence and committing traffic violations as members of motorcycle gangs followed. The number of juveniles committing felonies, such as robbery and assault, also went up from last year.

In 2001, 20 percent of juvenile offenders were 17-year-olds followed by 16- and 18-year-olds. Last year, 23 percent were 16 and 18 percent were 15.

Joo said each judge of the Busan Family Court handled 4,913 juvenile cases last year. “It is impossible for (the judges) to be in charge of every case and we need to establish a court for juvenile offences or assign more judges,” he said.

No more than five years ago, the term “juvenile delinquent” mainly referred to badly-behaved male students in secondary schools. But now it is quite difficult to identify the gender of offenders when individuals hear about a crime in which young students are involved. It is because the number of female teenagers causing serious crimes is poised to outnumber that by males.

In December last year, a user created content (UCC) in which several female students in school uniform are assaulting another girl student was posted on a local UCC-only Web site.

The offenders were punching, slapping and kicking the victim. They even attempted to strip off the victim’s uniform.

Fortunately, the police, who had tracked them down through a cyber investigation, charged them with mob violence.

In May this year, ten female students from a primary school in Daejeon, North Chungcheong Province, were involved a group fight that left several casualties including one student suffering brain-damaged. The reason for the fight was trivial: one group of students provoked another, saying they did not want to see their colleagues studying English in a classroom.

While types of female-led misconducts in the past were limited to something unpremeditated and minor, recent crimes break down the time-honored legacy.

The following is a case showing how brutal and violent current female student-led crimes are.

In November 2005, a 16-year-old girl was seized in Seoul on suspicion of running a buying-and selling-sex business.

Reportedly, she conned several runaway girls with a proposition to make money and then forced them into prostitution. She even extorted what they earned. The money she had blackmailed for a month amounted to 1.3 million won ($1,500). Reportedly, she frequently assaulted those who refused to sell their bodies.

Crimes by female juvenile on the rise

The number of crimes committed by female attackers is increasing.

Statistics compiled by the Foundation for Preventing Youth Violence (FPYV) show how steeply the number has grown.

In 1999, female students accounted for only 2.2 percent of all offenders causing in-school crimes. But the number soared to 10 percent in 2006.

According to a report released by the National Court Administration, a total of 25,946 juveniles were charged in 2006 with committing physical and psychological crimes such as physical violence, verbal abuse, bullying and extortion. The number has declined after hitting its highest of 30,706 in 2001.

These figures indicate that the overall number of such crimes reported to local courts has gradually dropped.

But the interesting thing is that the percentage of juveniles convicted is increasing. While, around 4,700 or 15 percent of those charged in 2001 were put behind bars, a fourth of those charged last year were imprisoned.

Moderate punishment makes it worse

As the figures above show, female students are no longer just victims of school violence.

Many school authorities and the government are also stepping up their efforts to curb the upward tendency. But many experts say moderate punishment against school attackers is making the situation worse.

A 13-year-old girl had her 11th police investigation in 2005. She was charged with breaking into a neighbor’s home to steal valuables. What she did was serious enough to be jailed. But she was released following the investigation due to her age. Her first crime was actually not that serious. But her school had no countermeasures against school crimes.

Teachers at the school, who had once scolded her for a series of wrongdoings, paid no attention to her as her misdeeds persisted.

She became familiar with bad boys around the school and then started getting involved in crimes such as theft, assault and even hou

I fear that the root cause of South Korea’s rising juvenile crime rate is because of the environment South Korean children are placed in. Sure, South Korea has a generally low crime rate, but the government must do something before this gets too out of hand.

Consider this – South Korea has one of the highest suicide rates in all of the OCED nations. The statistics for South Korean teenagers are particularly high.

Why is this so? Because of the intense academic pressure that the schools and hagwons put the children under. Some are studying late into 1 or 2 am doing school/hagwon work. When schools fail to function as community centers (which South Korean schools fail to do) students often drift further away from school and drift into questionable activity. What schools in South Korea must do is embrace students and make school a more relaxing, captivating place to stay. They must offer more extracurriculars and offer more counseling programs. They must give students more choice in what they get out of high school rather than making them go through a strict predetermined course. I have faith that South Korea will be able to do this. However it is only a matter of when.

January 20th, 2010

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Amnesty for Law breakers?

She was 14 when her mother smuggled her into Los Angeles. She met her future husband, a legal resident, two years later.

A Guatemalan immigrant now has legal United States residency after helping the authorities prosecute her husband for abuse. She asked that her identity be withheld for fear of retaliation.
Bay Area Report

He had all the cards, and played them cruelly, as she recalls. He would not let her go to school or work, dragged his feet on supporting her citizenship request, and called her fat and ugly after she became pregnant.

She endured it all — until she caught him romancing a 13-year-old girl from their church choir. When she complained, he beat her bloody, tried to rape her, and fled, with the girl, to Arizona, she said in an affidavit that is now part of federal immigration records.

Today, he is in prison, and she is caring for her children in San Francisco, with a driver’s license and a legal job baby-sitting. Her legal status came about through what is known as a U visa — a humanitarian “island of niceness,” as one advocate called it, in a sea of restrictive United States immigration laws.

Victims of domestic violence are often deeply reluctant to press charges, fearing retaliation or simply hoping their abusers will change. The risk of deportation only escalates the aversion to go to the police. That is a main reason that Congress passed legislation in 2000, creating the U visa. It allows immigrants who have endured substantial mental or physical abuse and who cooperate with law enforcement officials to work legally and stay in the United States for up to four years while applying for permanent residence.

After nearly a decade of delays, federal officials began allowing the visas en masse only early last year, after sustained efforts from immigrant rights groups, particularly several based in Oakland and San Francisco. The pace of approvals has since stepped up, as has the controversy, with both defense lawyers and groups opposed to immigration contending that the process invites scams.

Statistics of divorced couples getting back together?

I have a serious question about statistics. Me and my ex have been talking and spending time together and just having fun. We divorced about 2 years ago but for some reason no matter what we do or who we go out with out hearts are not in the new relationships. We have admitted we both love and care about each other.. we were joking around and are looking for statistics of married couples getting divorced and finding there way back to each other. Our divorce was due to us not communicating. There was no abuse verbal or physical no cheating just not putting each other first we both see it all now. I get butter flies when I see him like a little kid and I am in my 30’s but he gets the same feeling. I know I love this man and we both know our mistakes. We are taking it slow and just laugh and have fun. Life got so busy I never knew he was so fun to hang out with and he says the same about me.. Any ideas where I can look for answers on getting back with your ex.. I would love to see statistics and if my story has a happy ending I would love to get feed back from other couples that have experienced getting back with there ex. Any help I appreciate Thanks ahead of time.
I think everyone is confused my decision is not based on statistics. I am looking for an answer out of curiosity. Why is everyone on here so uptight ??

statistics pft..follow your heart and remember how good things are just now and learn what has changed for this to happen..if you can do this and continue to enjoy one another then statistics don’t mean squat..good luck and keep on loving

December 10th, 2009

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I’m only a little girl-abusing drugs..tearing her family apart.. please, someone, anyone… help me.?

Please. Listen to my story. I doubt you have ever heard one like it. Try to think of me as you would your own daughter, or sister, niece, or friend.. But, honestly.. you don’t have to read my sob story.. it honestly is a bunch of excuses.. but I guarantee to you.. you will never think of life the same.. You could skip through to the bottom of this question.. and honestly, If you do, I don’t care what you think of me.. A friend, an enemy, a daughter, a complete stranger.. Just remember I’m a person. I’m a reall life person. My name is Marissa. I’m a human being that loves with such a passion, because she has lost more than you will ever begin to understand. She’s a fifteen year old girl who hid in the corner of her room on the top floor of her house in Johnson County, Kansas, while she watched silently as her perfect "johnson county" life fell apart. Her world crumbled beneath her feet. She has taken every beating, every bruise, every cut.. because she’s got nothing else. She’s just fifteen. I am JUST fifteen… And the emotions I have lived with, the terrors God has put me through, they have made me into an invididual who had everything.. and was finally pushed over the edge by her own brother, he was fifteen. I was only thirteen. I had my life threatened by my own blood relative. In front of my own mother, who was too scared and powerless to do anything to help her own daughter. I had my life threatened in front of my own 7 year old brother, who had to watch in horror as his big sister was beaten by closed fists, as she was thrown across the rooms of her house, stabbed at with an acctual knife, and burned by burning money.. all by her own family members.. mainly by her own older brother…

But I’m not blaming him..It wasn’t his fault.
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THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY STORY.. IF YOU DON’T WANT TO SPEND THE TIME READING MY STORY, IT IS SUMMARIZED IN THE QUESTION AT THE BOTTOM….
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We were just little kids.. trying to make it through this crazy little thing called life.. Me and my older brother, (Jake) never had the best lives.. What I will call "Daddy #1" (birthdad, nick) was addicted to many subsatnces, including crack, heroin, and meth. And who i will refer to as "Daddy #2" (stepdad, who eventually adopted jake and myself to become our legal "Dad", Tom-also, birthdad to my younger half-brother, TJ) Was bipolar, extremely Depressed, and within his time as my "Dad" our family watched as cancer took two of my amazing grandmas. The first to go was my mom’s mother. She was such a powerful individual. She cared for Jake and I when Nick (Daddy #1) Left the family for the Crack business. Later, within the same month, cancer took Tom (Daddy #2)’s mother. I called her "Grandma Trudy" Honestly, she was the only thing in Daddy #2’s life that kept him sane. With her gone, He went wild. spending all the family’s money, and taking his physical rage out on Jake and I. I was eight at the time. He beat us sh!tless. (sorry for my language, but it was the lightest way to put it while coming close to what happened.) Daddy #2 burned money infront of my face. A Twenty Dollar Bill. He was wearing his blue flannel shirt. Me, My favorite pink sundress. Jake, a chiefs jersey. I could tell you every detail of that day. He was yelling at us for wasting money. Then, being all high and mighty, as always, he decided to teach us a lesson in finace while teaching english, by using metaphors to punish us. He pulled out his money clip. then, got a twenty dollar bill out of the clip. Then took his lighter, and lit the money on fire, waving it 2cm in front of my face. While screaming at Jake and I for being wasteful. I remember him saying "next time you feel like wasting money.. why don’t you just let me burn it for you? Because this is what you’re doing. You’re wasting our family’s money. You’re burning our money." All I had done was not finished my dinner, because I had a stomach ache from eating too much. My mom cried in the other room, while I cried with the fire so close to my face, I was sweating. Finally, about 11 months later, around the time his mom had died, He left my family.. with no money, a newly single mother, to support a family of four on a teacher’s sallary. She raised My younger brother, TJ (4 at the time of Tom’s departure.), My older brother, Jake (10 years old at the time,) and Myself, Marissa (8 at the time). She raised us all to the best of her ability, trying to undo all that Tom had taugh us about life.. But sadly enough, for Jake and Myself, statistics show that whatever a child lives with until he/she in 6 becomes normal behavior for the child. For Myself, this meant I thought being hit, and screamed at, was normal. I had no friends, because everyone was scared of my dad. I seriously thought it was normal. It didnt seem fair.. but I knew nothing

This is not something you should and can handle on your own. You need help from adults. There are resources for you, though, don’t give up!

http://www.safehome-ks.org/

Check out this site, they can provide a lot of resources.

Also, you should talk to someone in your school. Find a teacher, counselor, or administrator that you feel comfortable talking to. You need someone in your corner with resources to help.

November 18th, 2009

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Sugar/fats/oil abuse worse than Marijuana?

If somone had never heard of either Cannabis or Sugar/fats/oils before in their life, and I showed them a highly accurate and detailed report of both substances how many people do you think would say bad food is way worse for you than cannabis??

I think the numbers would be overwhelmingly in favor of cannabis being better for you… Please keep in mind though the diffrence between abuse and use.

Let me clear up some Stuff as well. Sugar less addictive than weed? thats hard to belive, less than 1% of cannabis users develope a physical or mental addiction to Marijuana. While i don’t have statistics for sugar i can allmost garentee more kids/adults these days are addictied to sugar far more than they are to weed.

I am a person who has done MDMA(Ecstasy) meth, weed, coke, lsd, shrooms, dmt, alcohol, tabbaco, and i can honestly say giving up bad foods was the 1 thing i cannot do. And not im not obese or eat a TON its just i need them, its serously the only thing ive een addicted too.
Cannabis has worse effects over time? That’s debatable… diabetes, obesity, rotting teeth, gastrointestinal cancer, high blood pressure, high cholesterol levels, low levels of physical activity all sound serous to me…

While cannabis has about 2-4X more cancer causing components than Cigarettes, studies show long term abuse of cannabis is unlikely to cause cancer of the lungs or upper airways. They suspect that tobacco only causes cancer because of the radioactive soil and nicotine. Also I might add an average marijuana smoker only needs 2-5 “hits” to get high while a cigarette smoker may smoke a Pack(!) a day and 1 cigarette alone will be more smoke than a marijuana smokes in 1 day.

I’m not saying cannabis is healthy I’m just saying sugar can and most likely is worse than cannabis if abused even If the marijuana smoker is an extremely heavy user.

and yes about 50% of america abuses it allready
tenn gal, i was refuring to bad foods.

drshorty, your living in a dream world not everyone is going to do what is healthy for them. and yes pot is bad, but everything is bad if you have too much of it. i would say pot is less distructive on the body then a lot of things. i have smoked pot for almost 10 years and it is a lot less addicting then other things, i can go months without it. now double cheeseburgers from mcdonalds, i at least have to have twice a month. fat is addicting too.

November 1st, 2009

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Why are social spousal abuse programs corrupt ?

Spousal abuse is a wide spectrum of abuse types. This includes physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse, financial abuse, passive abuse, and spiritual abuse. [1] Spouses can also be abused by their children.

It should be pointed out that a misunderstanding of the family abuse issue is so pervasive, male verses female, or the focus on violence statistics only, that city and county governments, the courts, law enforcement, prosecutorÌs offices, mental health clinics, and other tax supported agencies[2] are more about gender politics than reality.

"Most reported cases of spousal abuse involve violence by men against women. " This is the corruption, where we go from abuse, to violence and polarize the issue….why ?
Most doctors are men…but we still accept women as doctors…

The details are that we must judge individuals on an individual basis, not by some biased generalization.

Silence is the most abusive form of abuse.

Because its true, men hit and abuse women in every sense more than women hit and abuse men. Just because you don’t like the truth doesn’t mean its not true. We aren’t talking nagging by the wife here, we are talking the systematic theft of dignity that occurs in these relationships, and its called elder abuse when its perpetrated against the elderly.
You sound like you may have met up with people who have called you an abuser and you don’t like it and so you are going to blame ‘gender politics’ rather than your own behavior.
And I’m hoping I’m wrong there.

October 15th, 2009

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Why are social spousal abuse programs corrupt ?

"Most reported cases of spousal abuse involve violence by men against women. " This is the corruption, where we go from abuse, to violence and polarize the issue….why ?

HUH? I’m rereading and still not comprehending.

Are you saying that by stating most reported cases of spousal abuse is violence against women is wrong because not all abuse is violent?

It does say REPORTED!!! Most people don’t report emotional or financial abuse.

October 11th, 2009

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What makes a good feminist? Would the following make a good feminist?

If I were to say i would

Never say that I think abortion is unethical, ever again
I will never question a single of their statistics again
I will never question that mothers should get automatic custody
I will never question whether a woman who claims it was raped or abused
I will "take responsibility" as a man for all the horrible things my gender has done-
each time a woman is raped/abused I will blame myself
I will support a woman getting any job over me as it promotes "equality"
I will automatically assume sexism whenever anything seems like it may possibly be unfair against women.
I will assume that women would under fair circumstances be doing exactly as good at men at everything or better, unless feminists do not claim it so like in physical strength in which case I shall demand that allowances are made for them in any way which women are inferior so that they have equal opportunities at things they aren’t as good at as men
I will support any action to try to equalise any inequalities (which go against women)
I will support more money going to womens causes, especially in comparison to mens.
I will attempt to make men act however it is feminism says they should act, instead of how they do- because if they are not acting how feminism says they should be it is because of gender roles and the patriachy
I will admit the existence of the patriachy, which is about men having wealth and positions of power, neither of which I have any of at all but will as a man assume that I benefit from this in some way as opposed to seeing it as being bad that other men have more than me, and that this may actually be a terrible thing in terms of any future success with women. Also, Perhaps the world is more geared towards mens preferences as opposed to womens, which is odd because I thought we were the same except for our given gender roles.
Otherwise, I will oppose "rule of the father" that is if a father does anything, I will oppose him. In fact I will oppose fathers full stop.
I will not act on any sexual urges I have, so that I will not offend any woman by looking at her or saying anything that might be sexual and offend her in some way, and heaven forbid amount to sexual harassment.
I will not want sex from my girlfriend, or show this in any way, lest i be guilty of pressuring her and then if she does have sex with me, perhaps even of raping her.
I will do at least 50% of all the work that women around me do (ie cooking, cleaning), even if they don’t do any of other types of work which I do.

Would this make a good feminist, or an extremely stupid feminist???

That would make you whipped, dude, and while they may appreciate your efforts they wouldn’t respect you. Think for yourself even if it means going against the majority.

October 3rd, 2009

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What Rape Campus crisis? Heather McDonald’s article in LA Times. Your thoughts?

partial excerpt of article
Promiscuity and hype have created a phony epidemic at colleges.
By Heather Mac Donald
February 24, 2008
It’s a lonely job, working the phones at a college rape crisis center. Day after day, you wait for the casualties to show up from the alleged campus rape epidemic — but no one calls. Could this mean that the crisis is overblown? No. It means, according to campus sexual-assault organizations, that the abuse of coeds is worse than anyone had ever imagined. It means that consultants and counselors need more funding to persuade student rape victims to break the silence of their suffering.

It is a central claim of these organizations that between a fifth and a quarter of all college women will be raped or will be the targets of attempted rape by the end of their college years. Harvard’s Office of Sexual Assault Prevention and Response uses the 20% to 25% statistic. Websites at New York University, Syracuse University, Penn State and the University of Virginia, among many other places, use the figures as well.

And who will be the assailants of these women? Not terrifying strangers who will grab them in dark alleys, but the guys sitting next to them in class or at the cafeteria.

If the one-in-four statistic is correct, campus rape represents a crime wave of unprecedented proportions. No felony, much less one as serious as rape, has a victimization rate remotely approaching 20% or 25%, even over many years. The 2006 violent crime rate in Detroit, one of the most violent cities in the U.S., was 2,400 murders, rapes, robberies, and aggravated assaults per 100,000 inhabitants — a rate of 2.4%.

Such a crime wave — in which millions of young women would graduate having suffered the most terrifying assault, short of murder, that a woman can experience — would require nothing less than a state of emergency. Admissions policies, which if the numbers are true are allowing in tens of thousands of vicious criminals, would require a complete revision, perhaps banning male students entirely. The nation’s nearly 10 million female undergraduates would need to take the most stringent safety precautions.

None of this crisis response occurs, of course — because the crisis doesn’t exist.

So where do the numbers come from? During the 1980s, feminist researchers committed to the rape-culture theory discovered that asking women directly if they had been raped yielded disappointing results — very few women said that they had been. So Ms. magazine commissioned University of Arizona public health professor Mary Koss to develop a different way to measure the prevalence of rape.

Rather than asking female students about rape per se, Koss asked them if they had ever experienced actions that she then classified as rape. One question, for example, asked, "Have you had sexual intercourse when you didn’t want to because a man gave you alcohol or drugs?" — a question that is ambiguous on several fronts, including the woman’s degree of incapacitation, the causal relation between being given a drink and having sexual intercourse, and the man’s intentions. Koss’ method produced the 25% rate, which Ms. then published.

It was a flawed study on a number of levels, but the most powerful refutation came from her own subjects: 73% of the women whom the study characterized as rape victims told the researchers that they hadn’t been raped. Further, 42% of the study’s supposed victims said they had had intercourse again with their alleged assailants — though it is highly unlikely that a raped woman would have sex again with the fiend who attacked her.

Despite all this, the numbers have stuck. Today, John Foubert, an education professor at William and Mary College (and founder of a group called One-in-Four, which works on sexual assault issues and has chapters on 17 campuses), says, "The one-in-four statistic has been replicated in several studies for several decades. To the extent that social science can prove anything, which I believe it can, the one-in-four statistic has been proven beyond all reasonable doubt. My instincts tell me that the statistic is actually much higher."

Yet subsequent campus rape studies keep turning up the pesky divergence between the victims’ and the researchers’ point of view.

A 2006 survey of sorority women at the University of Virginia, for example, found that only 23% of the subjects whom the survey characterized as rape victims felt that they had been raped — a result that the university’s director of sexual and domestic violence services calls "discouraging." Equally damning was a 2000 campus rape study conducted under the aegis of the Department of Justice. Sixty-five percent of those whom the researchers called "completed rape" victims and three-quarters of "attempted rape" victims said that they did not think that their experiences were "serious enough to report."

Believing in the campus rape epidemic, it turns out, requires ignoring women’s own interpretations of their experiences.

Nevertheless, none of the weaknesses in the research has had the slightest drag on the campus "anti-rape" movement, because the movement is political, not empirical. In a rape culture, which "condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as a norm," sexual assault will wind up underreported, argued Carole Goldberg, the director of Yale’s Sexual Harassment and Assault Resources and Education Center, in a March 2007 newsletter. Campus rape centers and 24-hour hotlines, aided by tens of millions of dollars of federal funding, are ubiquitous.

Needless to say, those facilities don’t appear to get a tremendous amount of use. For example, Hillary Wing-Richards, the associate director of sexual-assault prevention at James Madison University, said the school’s campus rape "help line" gets a varying number of calls, some of which are "request-for-information calls" — where to go, who to talk to and the like.

"Some months there are 10 and others, one or two," she said.

Referring to rape hotlines, risk management consultant Brett Sokolow laments: "The problem is, on so many of our campuses, very few people ever call. And mostly we’ve resigned ourselves to the underutilization of these resources."

Federal law requires colleges to publish reported crimes affecting their students. The numbers of reported sexual assaults — the law does not require their confirmation — usually run under half a dozen a year on private campuses, and maybe two to three times that at large public universities.

So what reality does lie behind the rape hype? I believe that it’s the booze-fueled hookup culture of one-night, or sometimes just partial-night, stands. Students in the ’60s demanded that college administrators stop setting rules for fraternization. The colleges meekly complied and opened a Pandora’s box of boorish, promiscuous behavior that gets cruder each year.

This culture has been written about widely. College women — as well as men — reportedly drink heavily before and during parties. For the women, that drinking is often goal-oriented, suggests Karin Agness, a recent University of Virginia graduate and founder of NeW, a club for conservative university women: It frees the drinker from responsibility and "provides an excuse for engaging in behavior that she ordinarily wouldn’t." Nights can include a meaningless sexual encounter with a guy whom the girl may not even know.

Yes, obviously women wouldn’t under-report because victims of rape are lauded as heroes and saints; there’s no stigma that they’re unclean, no social shame attached to it, so why would they fear to come forward or even admit it to themselves? The answer to this problem, as suggested in the last paragraph, is obviously to lock up women’s sexuality again and stop letting them get laid whenever they want. F**king uppity bitches.

Of course, if we were man-hating feminists, we might consider that the alternative scenario – that rape crisis centers are underutilized for other reasons than the absence of a crisis – might have some truth to it. And we might look at a huge number of studies with a variety of methodologies that report similarly high numbers. For example this study:
http://links.jstor.org/sici?sici=0197-6664(199101)40%3A1%3C65%3AARATCS%3E2.0.CO%3B2-2
uses a relatively careful methodology that has little ambiguity and reports a rate of 20% for unwanted attempted intercourse and 10% for unwanted intercourse (rape). In the vast majority of these cases (91% and 72% respectively) the woman involved said "no" to intercourse explicitly. Also worth noting from the study is who they told: most told either a roommate, a close friend, or no one. Less than 1% told a counselor. What?! Maybe that explains why no one is calling rape crisis centers – because this is a hard thing to talk to a stranger about? Nah… only some sort of f**king feminazi would advance such a notion.

October 1st, 2009

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Moving out with boyfriend? Help telling abusive parents…?

What do you think about juvenile crime in South Korea?

Amnesty for Law breakers?

Statistics of divorced couples getting back together?

I’m only a little girl-abusing drugs..tearing her family apart.. please, someone, anyone… help me.?

Sugar/fats/oil abuse worse than Marijuana?

Why are social spousal abuse programs corrupt ?

Why are social spousal abuse programs corrupt ?

What makes a good feminist? Would the following make a good feminist?

What Rape Campus crisis? Heather McDonald’s article in LA Times. Your thoughts?