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Confronting parents about past physical child abuse?
Over the past few months, I have dug up some bad bad memories in therapy of me being physically and mentally abused (getting a beating because I "eat like a pig," or wanting to play football). This stopped when I was 11, and I was promised this would never happen again. Intermittently over those years, dad would threatain to hit me and my siblings when he got mad, but never went through with it after the initial promise.
A few days ago, I confronted my mom about this abuse (my dad was the one who always hit me), and she acknowledged it happened but invalidated how I should feel about the situation, saying I was being rude to the household by avoiding my parents (I lived in thier house, but stayed away most nights and weekends, only sleeping there because I realized thier abuse). I am 23, and work at the same company as them. Now dad wants to talk tonight. I’m damn scared, but I want to confront him for the stuff he has done to me.
So I’ll probably be told that this is my fault or is no excuse for how I have been acting. Any good defenses?
i have been in the same situation. talk to your father. it will be worth it in the long run. when i was young, a person who my brother and i lived with did (mum didnt really do much bout it) anyways i talked to that person even though i wasnt fond of it at the time. it was the best thing i ever did cause i had a chance to talk about how I was feeling. i am now 39. IT IS NEVER A CHILDS FAULT WHEN IT COMES TO PHYSICAL ABUSE. LOOK UP KELSEY BRIGGS ON UTUBE and you’ll understan why child abuse needs to be stopped. ps if your really concerned have someone there with you(maybe your partner) good luck. send me some news on how you went if you want. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
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November 25th, 2009
Posted by admin in physical child abuse | 2 Comments »
you don’t need a good defense. stay on the offense. you have questions that need to be answered. no guarantees of course that you will get them, and know the road is going to be rocky and possibly unpleasant for you. i can but assume that your therapist is in agreement with you doing this confrontation at this time during your therapy. good luck, and i truly hope you get the answers you seek.
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i have been in the same situation. talk to your father. it will be worth it in the long run. when i was young, a person who my brother and i lived with did (mum didnt really do much bout it) anyways i talked to that person even though i wasnt fond of it at the time. it was the best thing i ever did cause i had a chance to talk about how I was feeling. i am now 39. IT IS NEVER A CHILDS FAULT WHEN IT COMES TO PHYSICAL ABUSE. LOOK UP KELSEY BRIGGS ON UTUBE and you’ll understan why child abuse needs to be stopped. ps if your really concerned have someone there with you(maybe your partner) good luck. send me some news on how you went if you want. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
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